Whenever I’m faced with a crisis or any sort of unfavorable situation, one of the things that helps get me through my anxiety is to imagine the absolute worst case scenario.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not a pessimist. I just find that there is a ginormous benefit to this approach. Rather than trying to slay a dragon, you befriend one instead. If you can face your worst fear, then everything will be ok. You know you’ll make it through, because you can imagine and then face the worst (if necessary). I take comfort in that.
But often we don’t even realize when we’re operating out of a fear-based mindset. Take business for example. Well, this applies to life as well but business is a little less vague so we’ll just go with business.
The single-best thing that you can do for your business is to to build it on top of a strategy that supports the expression of your most authentic self. That sounds easier than it is though thanks to all the barriers that we build up to hide our authenticity.
As children, we are so blissfully untainted. Always, (the period pad people) is currently running an ad campaign that I just love to pieces! It’s called “Like a Girl,” and it’s about how little girls (pre-pubescent) view doing things “like a girl” vs post-adolescent girls, men and women. Here’s a link to one of the commercials.
This ad is the perfect example of how children’s minds operate before their self-confidence is ruined by outside influences. And really, all self-confidence comes down to is fear. Fear of how you’ll look, of what people will think or say. Fear of being perceived as less-than whatever you want to be perceived as.
But what if you simply just let go of all of that fear? Imagine the worst case scenario if you have to, but just let it go?
The truth is, people actually care less than you think. Seriously. That may sound kind of cold, but most people are so self-conscious about their own stuff and caught up in their own world that it’s more likely that they won’t even care what you do, let alone react to it. And even if they do care, (and judge you) and your worst fears come true. Could you handle that?
Is the pain of not expressing who you truly are greater than your perceived judgment from others?
Just a little over a year ago, I decided that my answer to this question was yes. I answered it when I decided to come out of the spiritual closet and it was definitely one of the best decisions I have ever made. I will never look back. My spiritual practice and spiritual-based business has become a huge, happy part of my life. It’s what keeps me together.
So, I challenge you to ask this question too. Ask it whenever you’re afraid to speak up. Ask it whenever you’re afraid to do something different in your business. Ask it all the time. Make asking this question a practice and I promise you, if you start facing these fears, your entire life will change for the better.