No Matter What


No matter what, don’t ever lose hope that the universe has got your back.

The universe is eternally abundant, giving, and supportive of you and your well-being (even when it doesn’t feel like it.) But sometimes we need to make major mistakes in order to get back to our center.

We’re just hard-headed like that.

But when you are ready to turn a hopeless situation around, all you have to do is:

Awaken from victim mode. Because you need your power front and center. Feeling sorry for yourself will keep you small and unable to act. And your greatest strength will be blocked (your intuition).

Ask the universe for the support that you need, even if that is help with making space for grace to swoop in and save you from yourself. (You can also ask for help with not being so hard-headed. Handy, right?)

Listen. Open your heart and your mind enough to hear the guidance and support that you’ve prayed for. Get present + get quiet so that you can receive it when it comes.

Believe. Contrary to popular (ego-based) opinion. The world doesn’t start and end with you. There are other forces at work. Trust in that. Trust that when you’re asking and listening, there will be a net to catch you when you need to take a leap forward. This is what faith is all about.

Stay open. To everything. Because you never know how (or when) help will arrive.
But you are not alone. You are never alone. And you are not expected to do anything by yourself.

You are loved and divinely supported, always.

Tweet: In the midst of all of your worrying, planning, struggling and stressing, remember to leave room for grace. the midst of all of your worrying, planning, struggling and stressing, remember to leave room for grace.

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Where Is Fear Holding You Back?


Whenever I’m faced with a crisis or any sort of unfavorable situation, one of the things that helps get me through my anxiety is to imagine the absolute worst case scenario.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not a pessimist. I just find that there is a ginormous benefit to this approach. Rather than trying to slay a dragon, you befriend one instead. If you can face your worst fear, then everything will be ok. You know you’ll make it through, because you can imagine and then face the worst (if necessary). I take comfort in that.

But often we don’t even realize when we’re operating out of a fear-based mindset. Take business for example. Well, this applies to life as well but business is a little less vague so we’ll just go with business.

The single-best thing that you can do for your business is to to build it on top of a strategy that supports the expression of your most authentic self. That sounds easier than it is though thanks to all the barriers that we build up to hide our authenticity.

As children, we are so blissfully untainted. Always, (the period pad people) is currently running an ad campaign that I just love to pieces! It’s called “Like a Girl,” and it’s about how little girls (pre-pubescent) view doing things “like a girl” vs post-adolescent girls, men and women. Here’s a link to one of the commercials.

This ad is the perfect example of how children’s minds operate before their self-confidence is ruined by outside influences. And really, all self-confidence comes down to is fear. Fear of how you’ll look, of what people will think or say. Fear of being perceived as less-than whatever you want to be perceived as.

But what if you simply just let go of all of that fear? Imagine the worst case scenario if you have to, but just let it go?

The truth is, people actually care less than you think. Seriously. That may sound kind of cold, but most people are so self-conscious about their own stuff and caught up in their own world that it’s more likely that they won’t even care what you do, let alone react to it. And even if they do care, (and judge you) and your worst fears come true. Could you handle that?

Tweet: Is the pain of not expressing who you truly are greater than your perceived judgment from others?<br />
Is the pain of not expressing who you truly are greater than your perceived judgment from others?

Just a little over a year ago, I decided that my answer to this question was yes. I answered it when I decided to come out of the spiritual closet and it was definitely one of the best decisions I have ever made. I will never look back. My spiritual practice and spiritual-based business has become a huge, happy part of my life. It’s what keeps me together.

So, I challenge you to ask this question too. Ask it whenever you’re afraid to speak up. Ask it whenever you’re afraid to do something different in your business. Ask it all the time. Make asking this question a practice and I promise you, if you start facing these fears, your entire life will change for the better.

You’re Not Broken, So Stop Trying To Fix Yourself


I have a confession to make.

I’m a recovering information-addict.

For the last year especially, I have battled a lot with my information-intake. You see, communication is one of my major areas of life development.

I’m not going to go all astro on you, but I have Mercury (the planet of communication) in the the third house (Mercury’s hometown) and said Mercury is sitting in Leo (the quintessential storyteller).

So with all of that comes a super strong urge to not only blurt out a whole lot of information, but to devour a whole lot as well!

I have an insatiable appetite and curiosity for information. It is truly an addiction.

I purchased over 600 books on my Kindle alone in the last two years. And that’s not counting all of the other books, ebooks, courses, podcasts and ibooks that I also have.

Heck, a lot of the books that I buy haven’t even been opened!

Last year, I set a goal to read a book a week. That may not sound like a lot to you (or maybe it sounds overwhelming?) but when we’re talking about deep spiritual material, it’s especially a lot. This isn’t a quick read of The Secret that I’m referring to. I’m more of a Man’s Search for Meaning kind of girl.

So when my former coach, Lisa Wechtenhiser, informed me during one of our sessions that my guides were asking me to back off on the information, I was crushed.

It was seriously an end-of-the-world kind of moment for me. I did it, but it was really, really, really hard!

I was all “What do you mean I can’t read!?” And then I spent weeks trying to find other things to do. Trying to find other things to fill the hole.

I had an affair with Netflix… But that just left me feeling even more empty.

And I get it now, it’s all about that hole that I was trying to fill.

I went on an information-fast (which I am still mostly on btw) because all the information I was packing in began to overwhelm my already very-full brain.

The way that Lisa put it was that it was like trying to fill an already full sponge with more water and the new water was just spilling right back out.

To be honest, that’s exactly how I felt too. It was like nothing was sticking, but I wanted to, no, needed to fill myself up with more information.

But for what? Can you see the lesson yet?

It was because I didn’t think of myself as being enough.

I find that when people are jumping from course to course, or book to book, it’s usually the case that they’re trying to fix what they think is broken within them.

For me, the hole was that I never felt like I was smart enough, or knew enough, or was spiritual enough, or intuitive enough. It’s a classic wounded ego, widespread issue that plagues so many of us, this not being enough stuff.

So, I say let’s try a different approach and ask a better question: Where’s the hole that you’re trying to fill?

Instead of treating the symptom, (that’s what you’re doing when you chase after all those shiny objects) let’s treat the problem, the root cause of the situation.

Tweet: Let's find the hole and fill that, then you won't have to run around fruitlessly trying to fill a bottomless pit.’s find the hole and fill that, then you won’t have to run around fruitlessly trying to fill a bottomless pit anymore.

And let me know how it goes! I’d love to hear from you.